Some nights when we visit the girls it doesn’t always go as planned. It’s taken me a bit of time to get my thoughts together about our visit this week.
We arrived and the girls were going outside to hang out on the play ground. I had a heart to heart with one of the girls about her baby boy who is living at home, without her. We talked about living her life and setting goals to benefit him, giving her motivation to accomplish big things.
Afterwards the girls were teaching me to hang upside down from the monkey bars. For those of you who don’t know, I’m not the most coordinated individual, so I was nervous. We were laughing and hanging out as if we were just a normal group of friends hanging out at the park . In case you wanted to know I did succeed
Almost instantly the entire mood of the group changed as two girls got into a physical fight. It rounded up a bunch of the other girls and the scene turned to mere chaos. The girls were acting out at one another in language, emotional and physical ways. It’s nothing like I’ve ever seen before.
Ms Em, Katrina and I took a step back. We talked about how we get to see all of these girls. We learn about their personal lives and what they’ve experienced. Then we watch how they react in violence due to their history or the environment in which they’ve been raised. It’s a vicious cycle, they grow up learning violence and then they express that violence to one another. It was heart breaking to see how detrimental the girls can be to one another.
We eventually made our way into the building to do poetry. We debriefed the incident from outside a bit together. We wrote poetry and changed the mood by acting out silly and happy scenarios. It was awesome.
One of our favorite girls was leaving the home this week. It was time to say goodbye. We exchanged contact information and hugged and talked about how great she was going to do in her new placement. And guess what? We even got the change to pray with her, two other girls and a staff member. We held hands and prayed to the God that loves us so much for grace and wisdom. For guidance and understanding of the things in our lives. Needless to say it ended on a good note. I’m learning that I can’t blog just about the good days, but about the tough ones too.